- Say: "Why didn’t you say so at the meeting?" Of course, you’ll explain how considerate you were, and everybody’s happy. Your manager will probably say you should speak up at the next meeting. Do so and check the reaction.
- Say: "It’s too late now, we already made a decision." A weak manager, be cautious!
- Say: "Sorry, but I don’t think you are right. Here are my reasons…" You may be right, you may not be right, but you surely avoided a rant at the meeting
- Say: "Oh, you know, I really didn’t think about it! That’s a great idea/suggestion!" Next thing is you’ll see an announcement of the change, and you may or may not be credited with it. Contrary to popular belief, the idea thief owes you more than the honest reporter
One day my father caught his friend in a combative mood, and locked him up in the room (remember, no cell phones back then!). He then went to the dean and presented a case. He may are may not have mentioned the rabble-rouser in the closet… The two struck a compromise, and everybody went home happy. The rabble-rouser was upset, but for all the wrong reasons.
Going public before going private is a good idea only if you prefer limelight to getting things done. Bear that in mind, because it’s your vanity that stands in the way of your accomplishment. And you are paid for accomplishment, not for vanity.